You will never succeed, you will be major frustrated, and you will have, undoubtedly, compromised who you truly are just to win their approval. In the end.....its always best just to be yourself. If someone doesnt like YOU for who you are...then its their loss. Move on.
"People Pleasers" usually have trouble in relationships as well. Why is that? I believe it is because they do not have the self esteem they need to stand up for what they believe in. Therefore, they become "doormats" in someone elses life.
Describing you here? No worries....that used to be me too. There is hope.
First, you have to learn to love YOU. No that is not conceited or self centered. If you cant love yourself...you cannot love anyone else. So you have to do your friends and family a favor...learn to love yourself.
How do you do that? Find out the truth about who you are. This might help. I know it helped me. (and it still does)
Psalm 139:13-16 For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
1 Corinthians 3:16-17 Do you not know that you are God's temple and that God's Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God's temple, God will destroy him. For God's temple is holy, and you are that temple.
John 1:12 But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God,
1 Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.
So, lets sum that up.......
You are a child of God
You are known intimately by God
You are fearfully and wonderfully made
You are Gods temple
You are a dwelling place for Gods Spirit
You are Holy
You are chosen
You are Royalty
You are loved and wanted by God
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You are AWESOME, AMAZING, INCREDIBLE, SMART, FUNNY, INTERESTING, LOVED, CHERISHED, WANTED, and above all....God thought you were great enough to adopt and call you His. So that, in itself, is major cool and good enough reason to love yourself.